2020, it’s a new year with new chances and opportunities! Have you made your new year’s resolutions yet? Well I won’t be making a new year’s resolution in 2020 and here are three reasons why.
1. I’ve made resolutions in the past and sometime in the middle of January I would remember the resolution and realize I hadn’t thought of it since January 2’nd!
How many times have I, around 8:30 pm, on January 31’st, said the following: “my resolution for next year is to eat fewer snacks.” It just makes me cringe to remember all the times I haven’t been able to find the resolve to stick to it. We always have snacks left over from Christmas and New Year’s Eve and what am I going to do? Throw everything away? Give it away? To whom? I would feel like a feeder if I gave snacks to someone else. No, I would just rather eat them myself. You see my conundrum.
2. I’m not specific enough in what my resolutions are because if I get specific, I might just stick to the resolution.
If I break the snacks down in categories – sweets, chips, baked goods, and then even more specific: candy bars, tortilla chips, baked cakes, I already see a lot of exceptions popping up. I was raised in a family where eating was associated with social activity. And pretty much my whole married life has been a reflection of what I learned as a child. “It’s hospitable to have snacks in the house”, I think. “It’s normal to have chips while at home, sitting on the couch, watching a film on Saturday night.” I know there are homes where these ‘rules’ don’t apply. Getting specific and thinking about changing these ‘rules’ makes me feel uncomfortable. The discomfort is healthy, I’m sure. I realize these are self thought up rules and that rules can be changed. Do I have the resolve this year to make new rules?
3. I’m not clear on what my motivation is for making, keeping or not keeping my resolutions.
It requires a lot of thought to make a good one! For instance, if I was a smoker and had as resolution: “I want to quit smoking”, the motivation would be clear – quitting smoking is better for my health in the short and the long run and quitting would save me a lot of money! But what is my motivation for not quitting (my imaginary habit of smoking)? That requires some soul searching and who has time for that? If I decide to get back to my realistic resolution, “my resolution for next year is to eat fewer snacks”, I think my motivation is also health related. I’m 54 and my teeth are just barely holding on (so thankful that our children got fluoride treatments – another story!). And another thing, I haven’t had a healthy BMI since I was 28 years old. Snoring – when I weigh less, I don’t snore, I’ve been told. But turning my motivation into concrete, lasting action? That tires me out, just thinking about it. ;)
So, that’s why I’m not going to make a resolution this year. I’m going full steam ahead into the roaring 20’s, resolution free. It feels liberating! And you?
If you have the resolve and want to make good, motivated New Year's resolutions and you're looking for some inspiration, here are two good websites: choose from 50 or 10 ideas!
So whether you make and keep New Year's resolutions or not, I hope your 2020 is happy and healthy!