Maybe you've heard of this: Behaviour - Emotions - Thoughts - Results, or: BETR. The theory is that you do something or something occurs, and emotions or thoughts get triggered and a result follows. The result can be new (often negative) behavior, other negative thoughts or emotions. It's a chain of events that happens instantaneously.
So what to do about the unwanted thoughts? What to do about getting caught up in an emotional whirlwind that seems out of place, when you consider the trigger that got the emotions going? How to deal with that? And honestly unwanted thoughts just crop up in the most inopportune moments.
Recently I was reminded of this quote by Viktor Frankl, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” These three sentences are quite liberating.
Just imagine all the space between action and reaction. But to use the space, we need to break out of our automatic way of doing things.
Here are three ideas that may help with that:
When considering what to call this blog post, I just decided to call it “Better”. We all strive to be our best selves, don’t we? We all want to ‘get’ better or ‘be’ better. Maybe being or getting better also includes just being kind to you. Giving and creating for yourself some space!